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My Journey 7 – Love this song

I want to share this amazing song by Pharrell Williams joy-smiley-emoticon   http://vad.io/Vx8kpvxp  . It’s motivating and gives your spirit a wonderful lift. Here’s the lyrics to that song.

36_2_36It might seem crazy what I’m about to say
Sunshine she’s here, you can take away
I’m a hot air balloon, I could go to space
With the air, like I don’t care baby by the way

Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happybande
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do

Here come bad news talking this and that
Yeah, give me all you got, don’t hold back
Yeah, well I should probably warn you I’ll be just fine
Yeah, no offense to you don’t waste your time
Here’s why

Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do 2uz43m0

Happy, bring me down
Can’t nothing, bring me down
Love is too happy to bring me down
Can’t nothing, bring me down
I said bring me down
Can’t nothing, bring me down
Love is too happy to bring me down
Can’t nothing, bring me down
I said

Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do

giphyBecause I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do

Happy, bring me down
Can’t nothing, bring me down
Love is too happy to bring me down
Can’t nothing, bring me down
I said

Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do

Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like a room without a roof  girl-smiley-dance-gigi
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you know what happiness is to you          clicking-your-heels-smiley-emoticon
Because I’m happy
Clap along if you feel like that’s what you wanna do

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My Journey 6-Learning to live

tumblr_mp2z30mlry1sv1g1jo1_500I was pretty surprised to discover, after all the adopting and adapting I made in my life and lifestyle all these years to cater for my family , suddenly I am on my own and have to lead my life. The problem is, after all the changes I made , I cannot remember how to live on my own again, how to use my time doing things for myself, I cannot even remember what I used to like. Me being on my own is due to the kids leaving home for their studies and my spouse venturing into a new business. So I have lots of time on my own. It’s an odd mixed of emotions and feelings that I experience on and off. It’s a bit like the first time as a child , we step into school, not very sure what to expect n a little worried about how everything is going to be. It may sound a little funny that a fully grown and experienced person ,could feel like this , I guess lots of people may not speak about it hence the lack of knowledge about it especially in some community. It is expected for grown ups especially veterans to go on with their life.

Yes, I do agree it is good to move on and to go on with life. But , if I am still at an age , where I am still active, physically, mentally and emotionally, That is indeed a difficult task. More so , if I have had an energetic career. It takes lots of reflection, patience and pep talk .

I restarted my life. I befriended people in my new neighbourhood, I made contacts with old friends , I joined exercise classes, I volunteered a little of my time for some NGOs, I re learnt housework, I watched lots of TV shows, I started gardening, I started blogging, I started learning how to make handicrafts and most importantly , I started to be patient and kind to myself. I was always a person with wheels on my feet, busy with my family, relatives and career. I hardly had time for leisure activities and friends. Over the years, I took it for granted that I will look into these much later in life. Finally , here I am ,smack i/right “in the much later in life phase”.

Wow! Let me tell you , it is truly an intricate soul searching process. I have keep pushing myself to overcome procrastination, apprehensiveness, boredom, loneliness, frustration, lethargy and aches. I still am going through the process of A & A ( adopting and adapting ) but there is a slight difference in my outlook and understanding compared to where I was in the beginning. I consider and accept that as a great progress. I am glad I am patient and kind to myself. I do hope others who are or will find themselves in my shoes one day ,will also be patient and kind to themselves. Life is worth it. Have faith and give yourself your best support.

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You Can Do It !

 

 

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Mindfulness                         This simple drawing of matchstick people truly is worth a million dollars. How do we think , how do we live day to day , how do we interact, how do we react……… Every thing actually has to do with what is actually running through our mind at that moment. What is in our mind ? Do we store stories, images , voices , scenes and let them run like a projector or a movie in our head ?

No wonder we have problems concentrating , being absent minded, misplacing things and going around our daily life akin to having blinds on our senses…. smell, sound, taste, feel and vision.  It’s not fair to ourselves and to people around us if we respond to life from the Mind Full state. We have been blessed with all our senses , feelings , thoughts and intelligence for a reason. I am sure it is A really good reason. So it would be wonderful and great for us to appreciate our lives and be mindful of how we live and respond. There are many ways to be mindful. I will write more about it in the next article. Until then Be Mindful and Be in the Now.

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Clarity in our Thoughts

Recently, I went browsing in a Buddhist ornament store . Generally in Asian countries, Buddhism is very much associated with Chinese , so this store had a variety of statues, wind chimes, bracelets, wall hangings and so on. As I was looking , I came across a basket which was full of stones. Each stone had words on them but only one stone with a word caught my eye: CLARITY. This word has been running through my mind for the past two weeks.

By the way , if you wondered why I went into the store, well , I was looking for my magic stone. I read in the book “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne , that when we want to give thanks or to be grateful of the goodness that happened for the day, just hold your magic stone every night, go through the day in your mind, find one thing/event/experience that you are thankful for and praise it, appreciate it and thank it. Leave the stone near you as you will be doing this daily and the stone is full of your personal appreciation and thankfulness for your life. I felt this was a wonderful thing to do so I set about looking for my stone and hence the experience of coming across and pondering about the word CLARITY.

Clarity in  decision making, problem solving , goals setting ,  our relationships, our wants, our needs , our speech , our thoughts, our feelings and our path in life is truly an achievement everyone of us should strive for and be thankful when we are able to attain it.

  • Clearness and simplicity in our thoughts and feelings give rise to clear and simple speech and actions: Speech and actions related to ourselves and towards others.This is turn starts a chain reaction related to  our interactions with ourselves and others and our outlook towards life. For example ,
  • as parents, it is important  to be clear when we advise or discipline our children.
  • As spouses , it is important to be clear of our responsibility to each other and our boundaries as a couple.
  • As a worker , it is important to be clear of of our targets and output.

Self care is one of the most important need we have to practise to have a clear mind and thought. Simple healthy food, enough sleep,comfortness with silence, exercise , nourishing our souls by appreciating what and where we are in our lives are some of the needs we need to see to. By practising and cultivating Clarity , I believe we will be improving ourselves both externally and internally.

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A little HELP from…… a movie.

I always wandered why people go to the movies every week  or even twice weekly. With the rising cost of tickets and time spent driving to the cinema through all the traffic usually puts off many people. Yet hundreds off people go to the movies daily. I used to watch movies a lot when I was young, then just a few when I was a young adult and later , as a mother ,I watched as I accompanied my kids. Over the years , I slowly stopped going to the movies except maybe once a year, during festive season. It was fun and that was it.

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The Good Dinosaur

Two days ago, I had an opportunity to watch a movie titled ” The Good Dinosaur”. It was 3D animated and my companions in the cinema were either children or parents. As the movie started , I was surprised by the vividness and realness of the scenes. It was fascinating to watch the richness of colours ,ruby red , copper,orange, sky blue, midnight blue,cobalt,lime green , olive green, magenta, violet…..   It was a feast indeed for my eyes. Every scene was simply beautiful. I felt so alive and excited. The story, let me tell my honest feeling , it was very much about our real life. It was about overcoming our fears, trusting one another, appreciation, forging relationships, love and caring for others and ourselves. It was just a simple story about a little green dinosaur finding its way home but it was packed with such wonderful and valuable lessons. The dinosaur’s journey was filled with fear, pain ,anger, resentment, doubts, trust,sharing, courage , awareness , self realization and finally a good measure of self confidence. The discovery of its self confidence gave its self esteem the boost it needed to live in this world and to love its life. The little dinosaur finally found his family but he was not the same creature anymore. He realized his self worth so his outlook in life changed too.

For me, It was a profound movie indeed. The one and half hours I spent in the cinema was worth every minute of my time. All these years, I never acknowledged how a movie can actually put so much of positiveness in our minds.When people say , being mindful and practice positiveness , I always imagined it to be listening to a talk or practising meditation but I was amazed to discover that a good positive movie is equally important to help us to change our mind sets or outlooks. I consider the hours spent in the cinema as a counseling session and the thought patterns and values learned as therapy, maybe like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).

I suppose it it right to say , it’s important for us to feed our minds, our eyes, our ears and our emotions with good positive visuals and thought. It is important for us to be positive even though we are at our lowest , our toughest or in the most painful part of our lives. When we are at our lowest point, it’s important for our emotions and thoughts to reflect positively , it’s important for our eyes and brain to relay positive images or scenes . These will keep our minds in harmony and at peace as we make decisions or as we go through hurdles. Aligning ourselves is necessity nowadays.

We have been bombarded by lots of unwanted pain and suffering through movies, news, newspapers and even people around us , may they be family, friends, colleagues or just strangers. We need to find ways to be above this and to be afloat. We need to make wise choices. We can choose what we want to put in our thoughts and minds. We can choose how we want to see our lives and this world. So , everyone out there, GO for a Good POSITIVE MOVIE and LAUGH ALOUD and SHARE THE JOY.Come out of the cinema with a SMILE 🙂 on your face and a little skip in your steps.

As for me,I am already thinking of the next positive movie I plan to watch.images

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A Story to Tell

Each and everyone has a story to tell. The story is important but equally important is :where is the story coming from , who are you giving voice to , which part of you wants to voice the story, why is it important to tell the story ? It is important to understand that ,if the story is not related to the right person then the story will be retold without any solution or more importantly the peace of mind you are seeking will be elusive. Relating the story to the right person is important cause only then the process of acceptance, letting go and moving on can take place. What I mean by the right person is the person who is involved in the story with the storyteller. If the right person is not in a position to listen to the story then the storyteller could use methods recommended in personal therapy like writing a letter or even speaking to an empty chair. I had gone through my personal therapy and am a trained para counselor. Even with my knowledge and skills, I still went through a period of wanting to retell my story.

I too had a story of struggle to tell. I tried to tell my story to my friends and loved ones but I was not satisfied though everyone listened patiently, consoled me and even shared their own story. I kept wanting to retell my story until it annoyed me and it overwhelmed me .I was truly upset with myself. The need to tell my story became a burden even to a point I was afraid I might blurt out when I was with acquaintances and sometimes, with people I just met.

As I went trough this process ,I heard a talk on the internet about identifying and giving voice to a person at the right moment and the right time otherwise the story will never have an ending. That got me thinking. I stopped and looked deep within myself : who is it who wants to voice this story, the present me in the now, confident and insightful , the young little girl who had a difficult growing up period, the teenager who was constantly anxious  or the young insecure wife who struggled to raise her family in the outback ? Gosh it hit me then! It was the young wife who was struggling to finally tell her story. For your information, the little girl  and the teenager had told their stories as I have given them voice to express their feelings and stories also to forgive the people in their stories. They have more or less moved on.

I was honestly surprised by my discovery. I have never spoken to anyone about my life as a wife. The present me shares a very loving, caring ,supportive and jovial relationship with my spouse. This relationship of ours had progressed and evolved from the difficulties we had faced at the beginning of our marriage. I guess I still harbored the hurt because i never gave the young wife a voice. And now,maybe , as I am in the process of changing my lifestyle, it’s finally coming out. It’s true we can never repress our feelings cause they only fester and spillover to our daily life.

So now I have this task of telling my story: to my spouse. He was the right person to tell my story.I realised I would never find a closure until I tell him my story. He might be hurt , upset or even disappointed but I need to give the young wife a voice. I finally gave her a voice: all the hurt, tears and insecurities she experienced came out. I told her story but the maturity and confidence I have at present helped me tell her story without anger but with lots of dignity. It was such a relieve when I finished telling the story. My spouse took some time to process the story and I was proud of him cause he apologized to the young wife and acknowledge my story : like the true gentleman I love and cherish.

I honestly do not know if everyone will be able to tell their story and find peace but it’s worth a try. The process of identifying your story and identifying or finding the right person might be tough even embarrassing sometimes but do forgive yourself. The need to tell the story is important but do it with the tolerance ,compassionate, love , caring and values you have cultivated over the years. The present you can only give a voice to your inner self when you are able to feel love, compassion and tolerance.

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I Am The Keeper of My Peace

love this.

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I let go of the hurt. I let go of the anger. I also let go of the people who habitually bring them into my life. I am my own peacekeeper.Dodinsky

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You Will Get Where You Need To Be

a beautiful insight.

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Let whatever you do today be enough. Let go of the judgement you have about what you should be or could be doing, and today, allow yourself to simply BE. Quiet the voice telling you to do more and be more, and trust that in this moment, who you are, where you are at, and what you are doing is enough. You will get to where you need to be in your own time. Until then, breathe. Breathe and be patient with yourself and your process. You are doing the best you can to cope and survive amid your struggles, and that’s all you can ask of yourself. It’s enough. You are enough. — Danielle Koepke


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Salutions bring peace

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Work on your issues

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